The Digital Dragonfly was founded by us – Akila and Shelley – a married couple with three awesome, crazy kids who are blessed to live in the beautiful state of South Australia. We are a blended family of mixed culture, all living in harmony (mostly!) constantly learning, evolving and having fun together. Akila is a qualified chef and massage therapist who also has a keen interest in fitness, yoga and Ayurvedic medicine. Shelley holds a diploma in counselling, practises spiritual and Reiki healing and is a huge advocate of the Law of Attraction.
These days our lives have never felt more exciting and inspiring because we made the important yet confronting decision to create radical change. We pushed ourselves out of our comfort zones and jumped on a journey of self-improvement which in turn led to a wonderful opportunity to pursue a business in digital entrepreneurship. We have discovered tools and a newfound confidence that has driven our journey towards success, fulfillment, freedom and HAPPINESS! (click the button below to find out more).
But it wasn’t always this way … it all came about through desperation, exhaustion and despair about the way our world was turning out. Our family, like most others, has experienced its fair share of drama, problems, set-backs and heartbreak peppered through the years and frankly, it was from a place of rock bottom that we took a leap of faith to change it all. You know that saying, “The darkest hour comes before the dawn?” …
We spent many years feeling restrained by our full-time jobs, sharing the responsibilities of raising children (it’s all-consuming!) juggling time with family and friends, staying healthy (yeah right!) kids’ sport commitments, cooking, cleaning, washing, shopping (is there ever a day off from all of this?) blah, blah, blah. We kidded ourselves that all the hard work was getting us somewhere; that the deposit for the house we longed for would eventuate, that the aches and pains we both felt would only be temporary, that it was okay our employers dictated when we had annual leave, that dinners-on-the-run and the relentless list of frustrations were acceptable. We believed that the sacrifices we were making would all be beneficial in the end and we justified our circumstances by believing the majority mindset that …
Everyone is in the same situation … All families need both parents to work these days … What couple do you know with kids can escape for a ‘date night’? … Every working parent in the world is stressed and tired … This is just how life is … If you want to please your kids and get them that new Play Station or pay for their sporting memberships, YOU GOTTA GO TO WORK AND SACRIFICE EVERYTHING! … right??
Oh, how wrong we were! But still, we battled on …
We worked different shifts each week making it so difficult to establish any kind of routine. We crossed each other’s path on the way to and from work, handing over the baton like we were in some messed up never-ending relay race. We both pursued different courses and career paths driven by a primal need for purpose or fulfillment, but they all led to the same result at the end of the day – trading time for money – but not time for us and our family. It still meant we were chained to working for others on their terms, not ours. Surely life isn’t meant to be like this? Surely there’s got to be more satisfaction than this?
That hopelessness eventually led us to a journey of self-development and that’s when the magic started to happen. We learned about the true power of our thoughts, beliefs and feelings. We discovered WE are the creators of our own destinies. It turns out life is not some sort of lucky dip or random set of circumstances. Humans have the potential to create absolutely anything we desire, if we tap into the power of our own minds and learn to overcome self-defeating beliefs and behaviours.
Akila and I have experienced the liberation of eliminating negative beliefs and thought patterns. We became aware that in many ways we had been our own worst enemies; sabotaging ourselves within a cycle of negative thinking, complaining, worrying, doubting, stuck in a whirlwind of fear about the future for our family. Feeling like we were pawns in somebody else’s game of life.
The Law of Attraction came across our radar again. Years ago these theories sounded wishy-washy and hocus-pocus to me. I had this idea that something so simplistic couldn’t possibly be effective. But I guess we were ready for these teachings years later and soon discovered that attitude was part of the problem. The majority of us have been led to believe that for something to be beneficial, it must require an enormous amount of effort to attain it. This is a big misconception which we discovered through studying LOA and oh, what a relief it was to realise that! If your thought patterns and belief systems are all over the place, then no amount of action will deliver or sustain your goals. It is all about getting those thoughts and beliefs streamlined to build the foundation and give enormous power to the subsequent action.
So we took on the challenge and learned as much as we could about this law and slowly made incremental changes. With baby steps, over time, we have turned the momentum into a positive direction and experienced endless evidence proving the absolute truth of this scientifically proven law. Our frantic world of before has now been replaced with an invaluable sense of peace, reassurance and satisfaction. It all begins with letting go of old destructive beliefs and worries, focusing more on gratitude and appreciation, learning to be happy in the moment. If you can learn to let go of resistance and self-defeating belief systems, before you know it you will feel light as a feather and a whole new beautiful world opens up. Allow the universe to dance its magic with you!
We would love to share some of the life-changing gems we’ve learned and hopefully inspire you to embark upon a new journey towards a more satisfying and joyful life. Read more about us below and check out our blog and other pages for inspiration. Onwards and upwards!
Akila and Shelley